When it still hurts
In this episode, we explore what to do when it still hurts — when the past still lingers, when you’re replaying what someone did, and when you can’t quite let go.
Whether it’s a friend who betrayed you, a boss who fired you, or a parent who didn’t give you what you needed, I'll show you how we unintentionally keep the pain alive by using other people as evidence that we’re not enough.
If you’ve ever felt jealous, stuck, or unfairly treated, this episode will show you why the pain persists — and how to release it for good.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- Why the pain still lingers long after someone has hurt you
- How your thoughts — not their actions — are what keep you stuck
- The power of neutral circumstances in emotional healing
- How to stop comparing yourself to others and feeling “less than”
- The truth about fairness, childhood wounds, and your “life curriculum”
- A simple mindset shift that brings peace, freedom, and clarity
Key Quotes
“You don’t actually dislike her — you dislike how you feel when you think about her.”
“It wasn’t fair. But repeating that story for decades only keeps the past alive.”
“When you stop using someone else against yourself, you reclaim every ounce of your peace and power.”
Timestamps
00:00 — Introduction: Why it still hurts long after the event
02:00 — A story about being fired by a friend and what it reveals about your mind
06:00 — The Model explained: how thoughts create feelings
10:00 — Using someone else’s success or behavior against yourself
13:00 — The “It’s not fair” trap: parents, childhood, and life’s curriculum
15:00 — The shift that brings peace and freedom
Who This Episode Is For
This episode is perfect for:
- Women in midlife who feel emotionally stuck or hurt by the past
- Listeners struggling with comparison, jealousy, or resentment
- Anyone healing from painful relationships or family patterns
- Those ready to build confidence, self-trust, and emotional resilience
Work with Me:
If this episode resonated with you, it’s time to take the next step.
Book a free one-on-one coaching session with me and experience what it’s like to finally release the story that’s keeping you stuck.
This isn’t just a conversation — it’s a powerful hour that will change how you see yourself forever.
You’ll uncover the thought that’s still hurting you and walk away seeing your life through a completely new lens.
You’ll bring one area of your life — your relationship, your job, or that feeling of being stuck — and she’ll show you exactly how to change it from the inside out.
👉 Book your free coaching session
Don’t wait for time to heal it — awareness does.
Resources & Links
- Follow me on Instagram
- 🌿 Join You, Redefined, my new monthly coaching membership
- Get my free guide to Create the Life You Want
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